11 Aug '12

BDSM Day Ten : "BDSM and Me" by Lissa Matthews plus an International Giveaway

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Welcome to Day Ten of the BDSM Appreciation Event here at Scorching Book Reviews. So far we still have the BDSM Blog Hop which you can enter here,the wonderful Kele Moon giving away her Eden series,the lovely Cari Silverwood giving away a bookJoely Sue Burkhart giving away her latest release, Eve Berlin giving away the first book in a wonderful seriesSherri Hayes giving away a copy of Need, there’s a giveaway on Eliza Gayles post and the marvelous Bridget Midway is also hosting a giveaway. There is also a fabulous article by Reggie and kasi Alexander on the BDSM lifestyle. Just Click on the Links to play along.

Remember to use the Rafflecopter form or follow any additional instructions you will not be entered.

Next up is the fabulous Lissa Matthews. I was recommended Lissa’s book Simple Need by a good friend (Hi Minxy *waves* ) because apparently I simply HAD to meet Vinter. I did. I loved him. I bought more books and I have never looked back. I love Lissa’s style of writing and her lifestyle BDSM books are fabulous.

Anyway, here’s what she has to say….

BDSM and Me 

I was in a chatroom about 12 years ago. There were people talking back and forth in a constant stream that it was difficult to keep up. I’d lost a little interest until the terms Master, Sir, sub, slave, along with several others started popping up on the screen. I was curious. I asked naively what it all meant. After a few attempts to explain it to me, which only increased my curiosity, a girl took pity on us all and gave me several websites to read. I devoured them in a matter of days. I found more sites, more resources, books, and finally people who I could ask questions of. I was hooked. I was in love with it. I felt that I’d finally found myself. I soaked everything up like a sponge. I learned not only about myself, but also about others. I am more in tune, more compassionate, more open minded, more accepting of others. I have found myself using things I’ve learned through the practice of BDSM in everyday life. How to breathe through pain, how to accept things I cannot do anything about, how to change things about myself. How to actually be a better person. How to accept another’s will for me. How to trust someone to have my best interest at heart and to know me better than I know myself.

There are so many aspects of BDSM. Many people see it only as naughty and sexy and whips and chains, so to speak. The things that have nothing to do with sex, are the things that drew me first and foremost to it. The ability to trust on a level which allows your mind to let go and give yourself over to someone else for them to bind you, gag you, keep you safe within your limits…that’s what fascinates me. I am a big supporter and believer in learning more about myself and what makes me tick as much as I am in learning what makes someone else tick and BDSM has been a better teacher in that than anything else.

I love the floggings and spankings and bondage and blindfolds and gags and rough takings and forced orgasms, but the mental ability to choose to trust someone that much…? That’s what BDSM is to me and why I explore it, why I love it.

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I want to thank Scorching Reviews for having me and allowing me to participate in their BDSM event. For one commentor, I’ll be giving away one copy of any of the following: Twisted Up, Pink Buttercream Frosting, the 3 books in my Masked series (m/m), or Sweet Caroline.

If you wish to find out more about me, please visit me in one or all of the following places:
Living in North Carolina, talented, multi-published author, Lissa Matthews, has many loves in her life: Family, friends, NASCAR, football, music of all kinds, cooking, BDSM, and last, but not least, coffee. She loves it so much, in fact, she and those who know her are surprised she hasn’t floated away on a caffeine-induced cloud while giving life to feisty heroines and hunky heroes.

~lissa

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32 Responses to “BDSM Day Ten : "BDSM and Me" by Lissa Matthews plus an International Giveaway”

  1. Great post, and I’m so PSYCHED that you have a whole m/m BDSM series! (All the books look really good, though.) Thanks so much!

    vitajex(at)aol(dot)com

  2. Another North Carolinian! 🙂 Loved, loved, loved the post. I’m so tired of BDSM being viewed as some sort of “sick, twisted view of sexuality”. It isn’t. It’s about trust. A trust that allows you to finally step away from the world and really focus on yourself and your needs. And your partner’s.

    Thank you so much for posting this!!! 🙂

  3. Thanks for the great post. It's finally time that BDSM stopped being seen as wrong and sick. All the books sound fantastic. Can't wait to read them.

    e.balinski(at)att(dot)net

  4. I love your post! The reason why I enjoy reading BDSM romance books is because of the trust that is built up between the people involved.

    Loved Simple Needs, Carnal Ecstasy,a nd Ink Spots! Vinter and friends ROCK!!!

    suz2(at)cox(dot)net

  5. Great interview….since you understand and live BDSM, your books must reflect that. Can't wait to read some of your work!

  6. Great post! I've loved the books I've read so far. Can't wait to read more of Lissa's work.

    Thanks for the giveaway!

    bimmergrlmd at gmail dot com

  7. I loved Pink Buttercream Frosting! I agree with you that the part of BDSM that drew me to research it is the trust factor. Thanks for taking the time to post for us :O) Carin
    mawmom(at)gmail(dot)com

  8. Thanks for the great post. I just can't imagine being able to trust someone enough to submit. Thanks for the giveaway!

  9. I really, really want to read Twisted Up. Love the cover, and book sounds great. Thx for giveaway.
    GFC Lona Stringer

    blinkysthebest at aol dot com

  10. Hello Lissa,

    Thank you for taking time out of your busy day to spend time with your Fan in a Great Interview for the BDSM Appreciation Event.

    I'm a big fan of youw writing & have several of your Books, including "Sweet Caroline", "Pink Buttercream Frosting" & "Twisted Up"…which all 3 were FANTASTIC Reads!!!!! But I had no idea you

  11. Great interview! The ability to have such complete trust in another is amazing!
    modularmates(at)comcast(dot)net

  12. Thanks for your post Lissa. It's very interesting indeed, to read all these posts by authors. Who said an old dog can't learn new tricks? I remember when I got married in the 1800's my husband told me he wasn't into whips and chains, being somewhat naive, I really didn't know too much about what he was talking about. After many, many years together I wish there was some whips

  13. Hi y'all! I know I'm several days late in commenting. I'm sorry. I was at Authors After Dark in New Orleans all week and still don't have my brain working right. I wanted to thank everyone who commented though. I appreciate them and how supportive and wonderful all of you are. This is truly one of my favorite subjects to talk about and discuss.

    Lissa

  14. Great post! I loved reading about how you first got interested in the BDSM lifestyle. I only started reading erotic romances about a year ago, and have only read about BDSM, but it is so intriguing. I love the emotions and the trust that has to be there to give total control to someone else. If I ever find someone I trusted enough, I would love to actually explore the lifestyle first hand :)

  15. Great post. I have to say that I didn't know about BDSM until I started reading erotica stories a little over a year now and let me tell you I am so glad I found this genre! I love reading it and am so glad there's many authors like you that write those stories ;D and you all have different styles so it never gets boring. Thanks so much for the opportunity at winning some of your work!

  16. I loved reading your post! I have been reading alot of this genre lately & enjoying every one of them. I recently came across you on another blog hop. At least that's where I'm meeting alot of authors that are new to me. I will be picking up one of your books very soon. Thank God for Goodreads because every time I check into one of these blog hops, I constantly have to stop & add

  17. Thanks for sharing! I agree, for me, one of the best parts of BDSM is the trust. It’s hard to trust someone that much, so to see it happen? It’s one of the best things in the world. I’ve been wanting to read your Masked series, so thanks for the giveaway!

    tiger-chick-1(at)hotmail(dot)com

  18. Great post. I checked out your website. Lol added several of your stories to my wish list. Thanks for the giveaway.

  19. I love the mental aspects, being able to turn all the thoughts that are constantly in my head and just focus on what I need to do in that moment(s) only and not have to worry or think about anything else in my life.

  20. I've read several of Lissa's books and have reviewed them for both The Book Binge and my blog. She is a wonderful writer that know how to use descriptive language with an adept touch, manages to keep the edge even when there are tender scenes, and keeps all of us wanting to meet her next Dom and sub. Her books are really a wonderful reading experience from start to finish, and as a

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