06 Aug '12

BDSM Event Day Six : Eve Berlin compares the BDSM lifestyle to its literary portrayal & hosts a giveaway

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Welcome to Day Five of the BDSM Appreciation Event here at Scorching Book Reviews. So far we still have the BDSM Blog Hop which you can enter here,the wonderful Kele Moon giving away her Eden series,the lovely Cari Silverwood giving away a book and Joely Sue Burkhart giving away her latest release. Just Click on the Links to play along. Remember to use the Rafflecopter form or you will not be entered.

Today, we have the lovely Eve Berlin. I first came across Eve’s work with the first book in the series she is talking about today (and the book she’s giving away … ENTER THIS CONTEST!) I was hooked from book one with the tales of these Dom’s. Anyhow, the brief was to write about what comes up in their books….so let’s see what Eve has to say…


What happens when you let yourself fall…

Mischa Kennon isn’t one to take it lying down, at least not until she meets sexy Connor Galloway , a green-eyed Irishman with an air of authority she finds hard to resist. While performing duties as maid of honor to her best friend, Mischa indulges in a casual relationship with Connor. She’s surprised by the thrill of his dominance, and lusts for more feisty battles before surrender.
…over the edge

It’s all fun and games in the BDSM Pleasure Dome Club, until Mischa realizes Connor could master her heart.
…and into temptation?

If she gives in to desire, will it be too much to handle, or will it open her to a kind of love she never thought possible?
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The fabulous Nix has invited me here to talk about my latest book release TEMPTATION’S EDGE, which happens tonight around midnight (or tomorrow for those sticklers *G*), and since my book is a BDSM romance she asked me to talk about how BDSM in ‘romancelandia’ compares to real life BDSM.

For me, the two are very similar. I’ve been ‘out’ about my real life involvement in the BDSM scene for quite a while, and I definitely draw on my own experiences—things I’ve done and things I’ve watched. One thing people should know is that just because someone is interested in kink doesn’t mean they want to do it all. We each have our limits and boundaries—and our characters do, too. They’re just as individual as real people, and everything we’ve experienced, from family to our relationship history, traumas, hopes and fantasies we’ve had throughout our lives, all come into play when you approach something as intimate and intense as BDSM.

There are a lot of people writing BDSM fiction these days. There always has been, but with the huge popularity of the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, BDSM is more popular than ever! For some authors, the stories are purely the result of a vivid imagination and—hopefully—some research.

Research makes all the difference! Some authors who claim to have never dipped their toes into BDSM in real life have written amazingly accurate BDSM romance. It makes sense—after all, many people write murder mysteries without having murdered a single person. Or so they say…*G* But I still find (other than a talented few) that I can immediately spot the difference between someone who writes from experience and someone who writes from research. You have to ‘get’ the whole idea of the power exchange dynamic, and you have to have a practical knowledge of equipment, safe play (checking someone who is bound for circulation, for instance), and the psychology that is behind every form of kink.

In my own work the biggest difference between real life BDSM and ‘romancelandia’ is probably the romance part. Not that kinky people aren’t romantic or don’t fall in love—quite the opposite! In fact, the trust and deep intimacy involved in BDSM is a natural lead-in to a bonded relationship. But my characters have collectively fallen in love more times than I have. Well, a few more times, anyway…*G*

In truth, there are probably more similarities between BDSM romance and real life BDSM than there are between romance fiction in general and real life romance. For one thing, that intense intimacy I talked about earlier makes for a faster progression in the relationship. So while it may be common for our fictional heroes and heroines to fall in love in a month’s time, as well as for real life kink folk, it’s much less likely to happen to the general public. That’s right—kinky people are romantic! Incredibly so. True Dominants are definitely the sweep-you-off-your-feet types, which makes them perfect hero material. Which may be why I keep writing them.


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And now for a steamy excerpt-NSFW!

Connor smiled, gave a small nod with his square chin before stepping into the street. He hailed a taxi with a loud whistle and a brief wave of his hand, commanding the cab as easily as he did everything else. Including, it seemed, her. She was surprised by it. Enticed by it.

 “Come on, then,” he said.

 He handed her into the cab, an old-world gesture she loved immediately, then he climbed in beside her and gave the driver an address in Belltown, the same section of Seattle where Dylan lived. It was made up of older structures, and much of the old architecture had been preserved in the apartment buildings, warehouses that had been turned into lofts, the charming, funky retail stores and cafes. It reminded her a bit of home

 As soon as the cab pulled onto the street Connor wrapped an arm around her waist and pulled her closer, sliding her across the seat effortlessly, as if she were nothing more than a doll. His cheek was next to hers.

“I’ve been waiting all night for this. To get you alone. To kiss you.”

She turned to look up at him, at his glittering gaze reflecting the amber streetlights. Desire was stark on his rugged face, reflecting her own.

 She licked her lips. “What are you waiting for?” she asked.

He flashed a grin, but it faded quickly, his face going serious as he moved in to press his mouth to hers.

Oh, his lips were soft. So damn soft as he brushed them over hers. Too lightly; she wanted more. She reached up to lay her hand on his cheek, but he took it, held it firmly in his. Pressed her palm to his chest as he opened her lips with his, his warm tongue slipping inside.

He tasted the tiniest bit of the whiskey he’d had with dinner. Mostly he tasted like pure man. Pure desire.

She sighed, opened to him, and he pulled her closer. His arm around her held her firmly, so hard he was nearly bruising her. But she needed it, somehow. Craved that rough touch. That hard kind of passion. And he kept kissing her, kissing her, until she could barely breathe. Kisses full of wanting. Full of demand. It was making her go hot and soft all over. Wet between her thighs. When he slipped a hand down to caress her knee, then higher, she let him do it. Parted her thighs for him. Waited for him to reach higher.

He pulled back long enough to murmur, “Good girl, that’s it,” before bending to kiss her once more.

His tongue drove into her mouth and she sucked it in. He still held her hand to his chest, where she could feel his heart hammering as hard as her own. As hard as the pulse-beat of desire in her breasts, her sex. And as his hand moved up her thigh, leaving a trail of heat as it went, she pulled in a gasping breath. Pulled in the heady scent of him: rain and the earth and the night.

She trembled when she felt that first brush of his fingers at the edge of her lace panties. At the idea that he’d feel right away how wet she was, the lace soaked. He groaned into her mouth, and she felt a strange sort of satisfaction at his realization, at his reaction to it.

He spread her thighs wider with a firm hand, and she let him do it. Held perfectly still as he brushed his fingertips over the wet fabric, against her aching cleft, over the hard nub of her clitoris.

Need him. Need more.

As if reading her mind, he slid his fingers under the fabric, moving right away in between the swollen folds of her sex.

“Mmm…” she moaned against his mouth. He didn’t pause, didn’t stop kissing her. Instead he began a steady, lovely rhythm, his fingers rubbing over her slit, his tongue pushing into her mouth. Desire rose, burned into her like a flame. She arched, coming up off the seat of the cab, but immediately he used his other hand to press down on her hip, to hold her still.

Some part of her rebelled against his control. Another part of her loved it even more. She was too far gone to question it.

She breathed him in, kissed him harder—it was the only thing she could do. She was helpless against him, against the tide of pleasure washing over her. When he pushed his fingers inside her she gasped again. Was sure she felt him smiling against her mouth. Then he was fucking her with his fingers, a steady pressure. In, then out, his thumb circling her clit until she was sure she would come at any moment.

He pulled back. “We’re here.”

Oh yes, almost there…

She blinked. Her breath was a rasping pant. He was watching her. His fingers were still working inside her. She could barely stand to see him watching her face.

“Are you ready, my girl?”

“Yes.” She bit her lip.

 He smiled, a wicked grin on his gorgeous face as his fingers stilled.

 Bastard.

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So-what do you think about BDSM in romance and how realistically you feel it’s portrayed? Let’s chat about it-and if you comment you’ll be entered into today’s giveaway! Remember to add your email to the Rafflecopter form to be entered.

You can win a PDF copy of the first in my ‘Edge’ series, PLEASURE’S EDGE, as well as a copy of my e-novella, SANCTUARY.

Meanwhile you can visit my websites for more info about my books: EveBerlin.com EdenBradley.com or my awesome group blog Smutketeers.com.You can find me on Twitter, too: @EdenBradley

And you can find more of my books in stores right now! FALLEN ANGEL (written as Eden Bradley), my contemporary erotic romance is in your nearest Walmart and other stores now! 

Eve/Eden 🙂 

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40 Responses to “BDSM Event Day Six : Eve Berlin compares the BDSM lifestyle to its literary portrayal & hosts a giveaway”

  1. It does sound scorching 🙂
    I find that the "club" depictions seem to be the most varied for me because there are different rules/laws depending on where you live. Here in BC (Canada) ANY penetration (even fingers) requires a condom/glove. Things like that are unrealistic in the books but they make for hotter scenes.
    I'd love to win the books.
    rmwyer@shaw.ca

  2. Becki-
    Even in the California clubs the environment is varied-each have their own rules in addition to state laws. But yes-some of the safe practices can bog down the reading experience, so we must always embellish a bit in fiction just to keep things moving. 🙂
    Eve/Eden

  3. Hi Ms. Eve/Eden, In historical erotica books I've read, it's hardly mentioned. In clubs, it's a given (bowls around the rooms). Personally, I would think that it would be the dom's responsibilty to handle it, (as they are the caregivers). If you get into too much info. then it could weigh down the story. (Curiously, what about oral sex?) I thank you for this giveaway which I hope

  4. I think the BDSM world is portrayed so differently novel to novel.. Some are such obvious romantic fiction, but others seem much closer to reality!
    modularmates(at)comcast(dot)net

  5. I think that the amount of trust and intimacy involved in BDSM relationships is what makes BDSM romance stories so appealing. As far as how realistic BDSM is portrayed depends on the story's need and how the author wants to write it. I agree with too much attention to the details of the rules can bog down the story. I like the embellishing! 😉

    suz2(at)cox(dot)net

  6. Depending on the book you read I think BDSM is portrayed pretty realistically. I have no idea about the clubs though, lol. Book sounds great and the covers are fantastic. Thx for giveaway.

    blinkysthebest at aol dot com

  7. I think that the level of intimacy you need to engage the trust required for a BDSM scene is a real requirement. Sometimes in "real" romance or in romance novels, that is not the case. I enjoy BDSM romances because in giving yourself over to the other person, it is a gift of trust and responsibility.

    I have downloaded Sanctuary and am excited to maybe win Pleasure's Edge

  8. I think a good deal of research and realism needs to be in a BDSM romance. If the lifestyle is going to interest someone then they should have a realistic idea going in. Carin
    mawmom(at)gmail(dot)com

  9. Hot, descriptive scene! I guess i'm lucky that I think I've read authors that know what they are talking about whether through personal experience or good research. it has been rare that I read a poorly written BDSM…although there have a been a few.

    Can't wait to read more by you!

  10. I think most of the books i have read that are from the BDSM genre have been portrayed well. Minus the romantic part of the relationship, the D/s part of the book relationships have been dead on as to the D/s relationships I have seen portrayed in real life.

    thanks for the giveaway
    mhay@panhandle.rr.com

  11. I'm thrilled to hear how receptive so many readers are to the BDSM corner of erotic romance! Thanks so much for your answers. 🙂 It's also good to know that many of you recognize, if even on a subconscious level, when an author gets it right.
    Eden/Eve

  12. I can't get into a BDSM genre book if it doesn't seem real (in my limited experience and personal reseach lol). Luckily for me I've found quite a few authors who I feel have gotten it right.

    I'm definitely put off less by an accelerated time line, as far as how fast the hero/heroine fall for each other, in BDSM than I am in regular romance. There's an innate amount

  13. I am such a HUGE Fan of
    Eve Berlin/EdenBradley's writing & have so many of her Books…as long as she keeps writing, I'm going to keep buying them.

    As for the question, What do I think about BDSM in Romance & how realistically do I feel it’s portrayed?

    First I would have to say it depends on the Author I am reading, I feel research should go into

  14. Reading BDSM romance (including several of your Eve/Eden books) is what originally turned me onto my local BDSM scene. I'm not too active yet, but from what I see I feel it's portrayed fairly accurately in a lot of BDSM romances.

    kesummer69@gmail.com

  15. Since I've never practiced BDSM I can't really comment on the accuracy of what I'm reading. But I do find myself noticing that some authors seem to have a much greater understanding of the psychology (and physiology) of power exchange than others. These are definitely the stories I enjoy more.

    amberdcline gmail

  16. I think it varies from author to author. Some are definitely way more knowledgeable than others. As for how it compares with real life I couldn't say. I'm new to the sub genre and haven't decided whether I want to see what the scene is all about or that I just like reading about it.

  17. I think it would require a lot of trust to give up control and I think that would take more time to develop in real life but for the sake of the story I know that has to be quicker.

  18. I do like to read books that have a more true sense of the life, but then again one has to remember they are reading fiction so sometimes the wilder the better. I’d love to read your books.
    luvfuzzzeeefaces at yahoo dot com

  19. I love to read all forms of BDSM books, both fantasy and true to life. It is the reading of this genre that opened my life up to experience it. I am a much happier person in my marriage and in life in general.
    Mel
    bournmelissa at hotmail dot com

  20. I love to read BDSM in a romance, I guess the reason is, it adds a whole new level to the story. I would love to find someone that I trusted enough to be able to give up total control. So until I do, I will continue to live vicariously through my books.

    proudarmymom32(at)yahoo(dot)com

  21. I love BDSM in romance stories. I have only been reading them for about a year so I still have a lot of catching up to do, lol. I really loved Eden's Midnight Playground series (combination of vampires and BDSM…yummy).
    I don't live the BDSM lifestyle because I have not met anyone that I can trust that much yet, so until I do find the special person, I will continue to live through

  22. I enjoy reading BDSM, but it's not something I would want to try. It's always nice to fantasize.

    ainfingerATcomcastDOTnet

  23. Great post! I enjoy reading BDSM in romance, although it often can depend on the author. There are several authors who provide a BDSM setting in which I wouldn't mind participating. 🙂

    bimmergrlmd at gmail dot com

  24. DarkBloodyVamp

    I an new to reading BDSM erotic romance but I have fallen madly in love with this genre. I guess it appeals to me on a certain level. As for real-life I don’t know anything about the real-life aspect just from people that I discuss it with.

    Thanks for the chance to win your book!

    redfirewood888(AT)yahoo(DOT)ca

    DarkBloodyVamp

  25. I think it depends on the author and the scene. Some of the over the top stuff, I question it’s ability to even happen with the flexibility of human bodies. lol

    smurfettev AT gmail DOT com

  26. Enjoyed the excerpt and the post. I’m fairly new to reading BDSM. I love the trust and the emotion in these books. Thank you for the giveaway.

  27. Eve, I can’t tell you how happy I was that my writing fooled you. While I’d love to be in the BDSM lifestyle, it’s just not happening with this vanilla man I love. However, I wasn’t a Marine either, and research helped me get that write, as well.

    Thanks for the scorching excerpt. No need to enter me in the contest (because I never have time to read for fun, especially now that I’m behind on my writing), but thanks for sharing!

    Kally
    kallypsomasters.com

  28. I think that the believability of the romance, with TTWD or not, varies from author to author and book to book. Really its about the depth of the characters and if you can relate to them and/or see some depth or growth.

  29. I think the portrayals vary from author to author because no relationship dynamic is the same.

    If it was every BDSM book would be a carbon copy of another.

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