Most of the stories I write feature two men falling in love, getting kinky and living happily ever after. I can’t say I set out for that to be the case, but I’m very happy with how things have turned out. I love the genre I write in, although I don’t always love what it is called.
I’m not a huge fan of labels in any case, but if I need to pick one for these particular stories it has to be Male/Male romance rather than gay romance.
I don’t know what other reasons writers might have for picking the M/M label, but mine is very simple—not all guys who love guys are gay, just like not all guys who love girls are straight.
I’ve written a few characters who state outright in their respective books that they are bi. Sometimes it’s a big thing—the book wouldn’t be the same if the “bisexual issue” wasn’t part of it.
There are so many myths about bi people that wind me up. I’ve heard most of them first hand (I’m bi myself) and the comments come from the gay and lesbian population just as often as they issue from the straight community.
So, every now and again, I’ll write a story, a M/M story that attempts to work through some of the issues that bi people deal with in the real world.
In Gay Until Graduation, Baxter is terrified of falling in love with Spencer, because he’s sure that, as a bi man, Spencer will eventually end up with a woman— that he could never be happy without a woman in his life. (Just like someone capable of being attracted to blonds and brunettes obviously needs one of each in their bed at all times…)
In Gay Best Friend, one of the characters struggles to wrap his head around the idea that bisexuality doesn’t have to mean that someone is equally attracted to both genders. (In the same way, as if you like both Italian and Chinese food, you are required by law to like both equally.)
There are lots of other bi characters in my books, but quite often their bisexuality is not a huge feature of the story. Hell, a lot of the time it won’t even be mentioned— just like I won’t go out of my way to point out that the character who fell for a blond could also have fallen for a red headed man, or that someone in love with a tall guy could easily have lived happily ever after with someone a foot shorter.
In M/M fiction bi characters can easily become invisible and pass unnoticed—just as, in the real world, a man dating a man defaults to being gay in society’s eyes. I don’t want every bi character I write to get up on a soap box and babble on about how he likes girls too. But, just because they don’t do that, it doesn’t mean the bi characters aren’t there, it doesn’t mean it’s a good feeling when people assume that they don’t exist.
I’m quietly proud of the overtly bi characters I’ve written, but maybe the most important thing I’d like readers to realise is that, if you’ve ever read one of my stories where a character doesn’t come straight out and say he’s gay, you may well be reading about a bi man. And that’s okay!
Kim Dare is a twenty-nine year old, full time writer from Wales (UK). First published in 2008, she has since released close to eighty BDSM erotic romance titles.