15 Apr '13

L.GBT Event Day 15 : "Nothing and Everywhere" by Kim Dare (Incl Giveaway)

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Most of the stories I write feature two men falling in love, getting kinky and living happily ever after. I can’t say I set out for that to be the case, but I’m very happy with how things have turned out. I love the genre I write in, although I don’t always love what it is called.

I’m not a huge fan of labels in any case, but if I need to pick one for these particular stories it has to be Male/Male romance rather than gay romance.

I don’t know what other reasons writers might have for picking the M/M label, but mine is very simple—not all guys who love guys are gay, just like not all guys who love girls are straight.

I’ve written a few characters who state outright in their respective books that they are bi. Sometimes it’s a big thing—the book wouldn’t be the same if the “bisexual issue” wasn’t part of it.

There are so many myths about bi people that wind me up. I’ve heard most of them first hand (I’m bi myself) and the comments come from the gay and lesbian population just as often as they issue from the straight community.

So, every now and again, I’ll write a story, a M/M story that attempts to work through some of the issues that bi people deal with in the real world.

In Gay Until Graduation, Baxter is terrified of falling in love with Spencer, because he’s sure that, as a bi man, Spencer will eventually end up with a woman— that he could never be happy without a woman in his life. (Just like someone capable of being attracted to blonds and brunettes obviously needs one of each in their bed at all times…)

In Bi Now, Gay Later, the problem is the oh-so-persistent idea that bisexuality is only ever a stepping stone to discovering a “true” sexual identity —that there is no such thing as a bi man, just one who can’t get his last foot out of the closet and admit that he’s completely gay. (Because, obviously, this is completelydifferent to someone saying that being gay is just a phase!)

Gay Best Friend, one of the characters struggles to wrap his head around the idea that bisexuality doesn’t have to mean that someone is equally attracted to both genders. (In the same way, as if you like both Italian and Chinese food, you are required by law to like both equally.)

In Time To Do, we’re back to the issue of whether or not a bi man can live happily ever after with another man.

There are lots of other bi characters in my books, but quite often their bisexuality is not a huge feature of the story. Hell, a lot of the time it won’t even be mentioned— just like I won’t go out of my way to point out that the character who fell for a blond could also have fallen for a red headed man, or that someone in love with a tall guy could easily have lived happily ever after with someone a foot shorter.

In M/M fiction bi characters can easily become invisible and pass unnoticed—just as, in the real world, a man dating a man defaults to being gay in society’s eyes. I don’t want every bi character I write to get up on a soap box and babble on about how he likes girls too. But, just because they don’t do that, it doesn’t mean the bi characters aren’t there, it doesn’t mean it’s a good feeling when people assume that they don’t exist.

I’m quietly proud of the overtly bi characters I’ve written, but maybe the most important thing I’d like readers to realise is that, if you’ve ever read one of my stories where a character doesn’t come straight out and say he’s gay, you may well be reading about a bi man. And that’s okay!

There are two sayings that are popular with bi-pride; Assume nothingand We are Everywhere. It would be a very nice world if people could take both those ideas on board when considering people in both real life and fiction.

Kim Dare

The Giveaway

It couldn’t be easier. Leave a comment on this post before the end of the month and let me know how you feel about bi men in M/M fiction. Your name will go into the giveaway hat.

The winner will be announced on my blog on May 1st and will be offered a choice of any title from my backlist, or the option of picking a forthcoming title if they have all the backlist titles they want.

About Kim Dare

Kim Dare is a twenty-nine year old, full time writer from Wales (UK). First published in 2008, she has since released close to eighty BDSM erotic romance titles.

While most of Kim’s stories follow male/male relationships, she also writes about characters that enjoy male/female, female/male (female dominant), female/female and all kinds of ménage relationships. Kim’s titles have included contemporary stories, fairy-tale re-tellings, vampires, time travellers, werewolves and werelions—not to mention the occasional wereduck.

Regardless of the gender of her characters or the different genres they inhabit, from short stories to full-length novels, there are three things Kim always wants to give her characters—kink, love and a happy ending.

Contact Info

Website: www.kimdare.com

Twitter: www.twitter.com/KimDareAuthor 


13 Responses to “L.GBT Event Day 15 : "Nothing and Everywhere" by Kim Dare (Incl Giveaway)”

  1. I think Bi characters can add another level of conflict in a plot, especially when there are EXs involved or other competitors.

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  2. I've heard some astonishing things said about bi people. Fortunately, I never believed any of it. Everyone is probably somewhere on the scale of bisexuality anyway. :0)
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  3. What a great post to read! Thank you. I have read a couple of M/M books & I did enjoy reading their story. I feel that if it's written well, it makes a huge difference in my reading enjoyment. I think that some gains have been made in today's world in regards to same sex relationships. And I feel that everyone should have the right to love whomever they want.

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  4. I don't think of labels when I am reading, I look that the storyline and the character's personality. So I guess I am indifferent to if a character is bi, gay or straight.


  5. I enjoy reading m/m stories where one or both of the men are bi. It adds a depth of feeling to the story that wouldn't be the same without it.

  6. I've never really minded if one of the characters is bi – after all sexuality comes in all types 😀

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  7. Hmm somehow I have only come across 1 story with a bi chara.

    Unfortunately is a bad trait of mine to see certain things very black and white, and bi-sexuality is one of them.

    For me it feels like the person is afraid to choose what they really want so they keep a foot on both sides and use the one that will give then an advantage when needed. I think they hide behind it, afraid to really explore the truth about themselves. But then again what do I know? xD

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  8. Great post and have loved your books with bis (is there such a word?) in them. Cannot understand why anyone has a problem with someone liking both sexes.

  9. I love stories with bi guys. So hot. One of my favorite series I have read were about soldiers who came back from war to their women but were in love with each other and they lived as a trio and she learned to love each of them. I can’t think of the name but they were really good love stories.


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