#LGBT Event Day 19 : Brandon Shire “Sometimes you have to love the unlovable so they can see how’s it’s done.”

Posted April 19, 2013 by Nix in Uncategorized / 7 Comments

“Sometimes you have to love the unlovable so they can see how’s it’s done.”

How do you love the unlovable? How do you love a murderer or a drug dealer? More importantly, how do they love themselves?Too often we look at all our supposed faults and list them as quantifiable reasons we should not, or cannot, be loved. We make ourselves or others outcastes or use our faith as a reason people should be deemed unlovable. Think about it. How many have you placed on that list yourself?  Be honest, we’ve all done it. S/he is too fat, too skinny, too old, too young, too gay, not gay enough, too religious, not religious enough, etc. The justifications could go on and on and on.

Book 1: Prison is a brutal, heartless, and demeaning environment. No one knows this better than aman sentenced to life in prison for murder. Lem Porter is a high-profile prisoner who had a solid career ahead of him in a field he loved until hekilled his brother. He has spent almost eighteen years behind bars and doesn’thave much hope left.


Anderson Passero had it all. He built a career, a name, and a relationship with a man he thoughthe loved. Only after he very publicly landed in prison did he realize how ignorant he’d been. He has eight months left on his sentence and he is eager to go home and put prison life behind him. He doesn’t know it yet, but he will always carry these eight months with him, and they may just help him tounderstand what love really means 

In my new gay romance, Cold, I’m exploring this concept with two completely opposite characters. Lem is a huge bear of a man who has been shunned since childhood because of his size, and Anderson is a small twink of a man who built a business and placed himself at the center of everything to try and glean some sense of self-worth. Both might now be considered failures in society since they are in prison. Both might also be labeled as unworthy of love. Lem killed his brother;Anderson is a convicted drug dealer. But if society deems them unlovable can they find love with each other? Can they overcome the labels they have placed upon themselves? Or those placed upon them by others?

I wrote about this disparity because I like to challenge perceptions. I also like to take complete opposites and throw them together to see what happens. Lem and Anderson are the epitome of opposites, a country boy and a city slicker, a bear and a twink, a ‘lifer’ and a ‘short-timer.’Even their crimes can be weighed against our opinion of who is the more unlovable of the two.

What could these two miscreants possibly have in common? And if they have nothing in common how can they build arelationship?  Most would say that relationship are built upon both differences and similarities. Does this mean that what they have is just sex?If so, doesn’t that make anything they build a reduction to a sexual liaison because they are the ‘unlovable’ outcaste of our pristine view of society?  Isn’t this the same argument used against the LGBT community as a whole?  Is it all really just about sex? I don’t think so.
BrandonShire is an award winning writer of contemporary gay fiction. 10% of the proceedsfrom the sale of his books are donated to LGBT Youth charities combatting homelessness.  

Award winning writer BRANDON SHIRE is a distinct voice in contemporary gay fiction.

His first novel,THE VALUE OF RAIN was chosen by Indie book bloggers as a Top Read of 2011 and aBest in LGBTQ Fiction for 2011. It was also distinguished with two Honorable Mentions in the 2012 Rainbow Awards.

His second novel,LISTENING TO DUST has been called a timeless masterly crafted literary work andwas chosen as a Best of LGBTQ Fiction for 2012 (Indie Reviews) and tied for third place in the Rainbow Awards for Best Gay Contemporary Fiction of 2012.  


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7 responses to “#LGBT Event Day 19 : Brandon Shire “Sometimes you have to love the unlovable so they can see how’s it’s done.”

  1. Urb

    Wonderful post! Everyone is by default, worthy of love. Can they unearn that worthiness? Made me think, thank you.
    brendurbanist at gmail dot com

  2. I have enjoyed several stories set in a prison environment and this one sounds very compelling. Thank you.

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