17 Aug '12

BDSM Event Day 16 : "Writing a Good Dom" by Cassandra Carr plus a Giveaway

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Welcome to Day Sixteen of the BDSM Appreciation Event here at Scorching Book Reviews. So far we still have the BDSM Blog Hop which you can enter here,the wonderful Kele Moon giving away her Eden series,the lovely Cari Silverwood giving away a bookJoely Sue Burkhart giving away her latest release, Eve Berlin giving away the first book in a wonderful seriesSherri Hayes giving away a copy of Need, there’s a giveaway on Eliza Gayles post, the marvelous Bridget Midway is also hosting a giveaway, an amazing giveaway from Lissa Matthews, a fab giveaway from the amazing Kim Dare, a femDom giveaway from Lucy Felthouse, A Lexi Blake giveaway, A Portia Da Costa Giveaway, a Roni Loren Giveaway and there is also a fabulous article by Reggie and kasi Alexander on the BDSM lifestyle. Just Click on the name in the above paragraph to play along.

Remember to use the Rafflecopter form or follow any additional instructions you will not be entered.


Today, I have the pleasure of hosting Cassandra Carr. If you look through my reviews pages, you will see a fair few from Cassandra as I am a big fan of her work. She has two current BDSM works and I’ve read them both (they have Bull Riders….that’s Cowboys people :D). I recommend her other works too …..

Lets hear what she has to say


I’ve written two BDSM books (so far- watch for details about more!), and both of my Doms have been very different. In Caught, Jack is a Dom’s Dom (like a man’s man, but with BDSM-hee), and in Impact, though Conner is very much a Dom he’s not the uber-Dom I would consider Jack to be. 

Both of my Doms have some doubts, and I’ve been dinged for that, especially with Impact, but the way I look at it is- yes, they may be Doms, but they’re also human. And a Dom who’s used to being in control of every situation is naturally going to freak out a little when they realize they’re falling in love with their sub, no?

It’s important to make sure your Dom is not perfect. For one thing, perfect characters are boring, and for another, as I mentioned above, they’re human, and no human is infallible. Doms should have doubts. They should have some insecurities. In my opinion, if they don’t, they won’t make a good Dom because they won’t recognize when something’s going wrong.

Most readers of BDSM like a confident, Alpha Dom, but there’s a difference between that and an arrogant, cruel Dom. All too often I see Doms who disregard the sub’s limits and tons of other things that would have me running out the door so fast I’d leave a blazing trail behind me. Doms should be caring and attentive. You know that stuff about aftercare, Doms? Learn it, know it, live it.

What are your pet peeves with Doms?

I’ll give away a copy of Caught, a BDSM holiday novella which was named Best BDSM Book 2011 by LoveRomancesCafe. Nix gave it four stars!

Blurb for Caught:

When Callie returns to her hometown for the holidays she comes face to face with her old lover and Dominant, Jack. She left him three years ago believing he could never be the happily-ever-after man she needed. Yet Jack still wants her and she finds herself wanting to submit to him again.
As Jack and Callie explore their Dominant/submissive relationship, Callie gets drawn deep into Jack’s world all over again. For his part, Jack can’t seem to forget how she nearly ruined him when she took off without even saying good-bye all those years ago, but he’s afraid his baser needs will destroy Callie.
If Callie give Jack another chance to prove he can be what she needs, can Jack overcome his own fears and claim Callie forever?



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Nix

27 Responses to “BDSM Event Day 16 : "Writing a Good Dom" by Cassandra Carr plus a Giveaway”

  1. I enjoy reading your Dom's! I don't want everything "perfect" they need to be human also!
    modularmates(at)comcast(dot)net

  2. I'm not sure if I have any pet peeves with Doms. I guess my pet peeve would be if they weren't dominant enough and caved in to the sub too much. Yours look great.

    kesummer69 at gmail dot com

  3. I don't like that in some dom's can all but read minds. Not going to happen! Thanks Carin
    mawmom at gmail dot com

  4. It's a better read if we see an "imperfect" dom….dom's are people too with issues and when one doesn't see it, the books seems unrealistic and not an enjoyable read.

  5. Perfect characters don't hold my interest. A flawed Dom is more interesting because he more believable. Thanks for the giveaway!
    suz2(at)cox(dot)net

  6. I'm a Big Fan Cassandra & very much enjoy reading your Books, Thank you for taking part in this Giveaway.

    What are your pet peeves with Doms?
    Doms that are perceived as "perfect", I feel that Doms, just like their Subs are flawed & that is what makes for an intriguing story line.

    I would very much appreciate the opportunity to be considered in

  7. i think a Dom should be strong and honorable but not cruel. He has to be able to show emotion and control, but if emotion overrides that control, he should let that show too. No ones perfect so I dont like to read about perfect characters either =)

    mhay@panhandle.rr.com

  8. I agree, no one is perfect, and to write a character as perfect would be boring. The best stories are the ones about real people and life.
    luvfuzzzeeefaces at yahoo dot com

  9. My pet peeve is when there are 'wannabe' Doms. Not taking care of their sub, not honoring the trust given to them. But I can understand writing one into a story, I as a reader want to read about the differences. I am a big fan of Cassandra, for those of you that haven't read any of her work, I highly recommend it, go get some of her books!

    No need to enter me, just

  10. Main pet peeve about some Doms (not one’s I’d play with, but just in general) —

    How some Doms expect “sirs” from subs simply because of the fact that they say they’re Dominant. In the lifestyle respect, like trust, must be earned.

    Thanks for the amazing giveaway!
    elizabeth @ bookattict . com

  11. I have this book on my TBR list! All my experience with Doms is is the books I read but I guess my pet peeve would be not taking it seriously/not doing all the work and learning the proper way to do something safely. Oh, and doing things to just degrade someone, unless that is something they are both into and have agreed to.
    June
    manning_j2004 at yahoo dot com

  12. Great post! I enjoyed reading it. Most of the Doms in the books I've read have been very believable & real. Agree they have to know what they are doing & these guys certainly do! Also gaining the subs trust is a big factor. Thanks for the giveaway & I love the cover.
    JessieL62@comcast.net

  13. Thanks for remembering that there is a wide variety of personalities and for writing about people who aren't perfect.

  14. I love finding new authors to read and this is definitely a new one for me.. cant wait to read about all your Dom's.

  15. Great post. Caught sounds like an awesome story. Pet peeve would cruelty and not taking care of their sub. Thanks for the giveaway.

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